I am absolutely sure that new situations are harder for me than for most. There’s no way anyone else gets as crazy anxious as I do. But, just in case, here’s how to handle the New Job Blues, or anything new, for that matter. Any time I find myself in a new situation, my General Anxiety Disorder goes roadrunner speed. In this case of anxiety, the culprit is my new job. Usually, when you’re in a new job, there’s some level of absolutely normal incompetence. It takes time to learn anything new. During the initial stages of learning, you are incompetent! No one is comfortable being incompetent. When you’re incompetent, you ask annoying questions.  When you’re incompetent, you don’t know which way is up. When you’re incompetent you have no other choice but to rely on others for help. Your existence and success rests heavily on their willingness and competence to help you. Some physical symptoms of anxiety are: sweating, fatigue, lightheadedness, headaches, nausea, sensations of trembling, elevated blood pressure and pain in the back. Psychological symptoms are worry, obsessing, emotional distress, and inability to concentrate, When I get anxious, I get every symptom there is to be had. Because I wouldn’t wish the new job, anxiety provoking blues, on anyone (not even my worst enemy) I’ve got 5 tips for success.

Here’s the first tip: The week before your first day, spend an hour a day, online, researching the company; its mission; and vision. Memorize it. Peruse social media sites for people with personal experience with the company.  Look for clues as to the company’s culture, so you can learn how to fit into their culture. Don’t memorize facts to impress your boss. Know the company so when you are faced with a decision, your decision will be in connection with the culture of the company. You will probably impress your boss too. That’ll just be a fringe benefit.

Here’s the second tip: Arrive at your job at least an hour early, every day until you feel comfortable. Walk around the premises and write down any questions that come to mind.   Along with those questions, ask your supervisor the following questions: 1. How early can I come? 2. How late can I stay? 3. What’s the procedure for getting in to see the boss?  4. Where am I allowed to park and 5. What is the expected dress code? The questions you ask, lets your boss and co-workers know you care about being courteous; following rules; honoring culture; that the office’s unwritten rules are important to you; and that you’re very much interested in fitting in with everyone.

Here’s tip number 3: Embrace the fact that for the first month you will feel overwhelmed. There’s so much everyone else knows, that you don’t. Remind yourself that the learning curve will be steep, but you got the job because someone believes in you. Be assured, that the more time passes, the more you will know. This is  a normal, natural occurrence.  Today, you will feel like there’s no way you can handle everything expected of you, but this simply is not true! Your best days are always ahead of you.  Tomorrow you will know more than you do today.  This is the nature of things. Write down the toughest things that may be overwhelming you today.  As the day progresses, and you feel better about those tough things, cross them off your list. Go back to that list a week later. Once you cross everything off your list, you’ll feel an overwhelming sense of peace–quite contrary to the overwhelm you’re feeling now.

Here’s the fourth tip: Before you start work, create for yourself a personal and professional code of conduct.  Discern righteousness in your behavior and in others,  Proclaim your behavior in various situations, so when the situations arise, you won’t need to guess or react.  You will respond in effective ways because you’ve already declared the expectations for your conduct.  You’ll be proud of yourself when you’re faced with making a hard decision. When your code of conduct directs the best response you could possibly make, you’ll feel mature, appropriate, purposeful, and you’ll want to make good choices all the time! I will include my own personal code of conduct in the next blog post so you can see my example, and use it to create your own. Remember that your code of conduct is a living and breathing document. You can change it at anytime.  It belongs to you.

Here’s the fifth and final tip: When you’re feeling the overwhelm, embrace this: Change and challenge is the vehicle to the destination EXCELLENCE! Look forward to the plethora of wonderful things that will help grow you into a better person–a contributor to our world–a global citizen! Be on the lookout for more and more challenge. The more you are challenged, the better and faster you become better and faster!

I hope these tips have helped you!  I’m becoming an expert on many things because of the many times I’ve failed. If you’d like to read about my journey in my raw and candid story, check out my books, Candy Canes and Coke, and Rescued By A God I Didn’t Know.  If you’re reading this article on my website, then you can click on books, but if you’re not, you can go to www.alohamomi.org. God Bless!